Greetings, everyone.
As I write this article, I am sitting in the classroom during self-study. I have already finished my English homework, and while lost in thought, I remembered a message a classmate sent me on WeChat:
"Your language expression on the internet is obviously stronger than in real life."
It wasn't until later that I truly realized the gap in my language expression ability between the internet and real life.
For example, I can clearly express my thoughts in one sentence online, but in real life, I often need to go through many detours and still struggle to convey my ideas clearly. Because of this, I encounter great difficulties in communicating with people in real life, and most of my classmates are not willing to communicate with me as a result. It can be said that the internet has severely weakened my language expression ability and interpersonal communication skills, and has made me heavily reliant on the internet.
Apart from the internet, there is another issue.
As we all know, when communicating with others online, I can use certain jargon that helps mutual understanding among internet users. However, when communicating with my classmates, I have to delete as many of these "jargon" as possible, as they say they "don't understand." This forces me to dig into my nearly depleted brain for alternative words. However, in doing so, the entire sentence becomes unrecognizable - as my Chinese teacher would say, "It's not human language." They would still say, "We don't understand the jargon you're using." As a result, the whole conversation is abruptly interrupted. This is a very painful thing for me because I am talkative and eager to chat with others, but as soon as I go online, I don't know how to start a new topic or what to talk about.
What seems as simple as clicking the "New Topic" button on Bing in real life has brought me quite a bit of trouble when transferred to the internet.
Recent changes to my blog also reflect my efforts to make it understandable to my classmates: renaming it to "Xiaoyu's Miscellaneous Notes," starting to focus on life-related articles, attempting to reduce difficult-to-understand words in the articles, and adding appropriate illustrations... Although the renaming was initially for the purpose of preparing for domain registration after turning 16, it now seems to be for my classmates to accept this blog. In order to provide a good browsing experience for visitors, including my classmates, I specifically chose Valaxy as the generator, added PWA support, and added a domestic CDN for referenced resource files.
A side note: I just realized that I forgot to bring my math textbook for Grade 7...
Back to the original topic. Since it is about "interpersonal communication," I should write about my thoughts.
As an important factor influencing socialization, interpersonal communication is something we must experience and a skill we must possess. Different from written expression, interpersonal communication focuses more on oral expression in daily life, while written expression, although "speaking with a pen on composition paper," is more focused on language refinement and learning, with higher demands on us. This is why I have always disliked the essay part of Chinese exams. Although there is a type of question called "oral communication" that blurs the boundary between the two to some extent, from its essence, it still carries some elements of written expression: it requires "appropriate language" and tests students' language expression abilities. For example, the internet term "socially awesome" - a while ago, when I was reading "Yi Lin," I came across an article that divided the causes of "socially awesome" into two types: one is true "openness," and the other is inner inferiority. Leaving aside the latter, why can these people become "socially awesome"? It's because they don't care about others' opinions, they have a wide network of people, in other words, they have strong interpersonal skills - high emotional intelligence, good at expressing themselves, articulate, and independent. Classmates also say that I am "socially awesome," but why? Because they think I speak loudly and can easily "socially kill" in public places. Looking back now, it's true. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, we should also consider the thoughts of others. For someone like me who has a large gap in communication skills between the internet and real life, I should try to recall how I express my inner thoughts online and then try to reuse them in real life. Hmm... it's a good thing to try. Lastly, it is to accept some suggestions from others and use these suggestions to change myself, trying not to use too many jargon in spoken language and not to repeat what has been said multiple times, so as not to cause others' aversion.
Well, that's about it. Finally, with the high school entrance exam approaching, I wish myself and everyone else success, accurate answers, and passing grades! Let's do our best!
Let's end the article with a piece of writing by a classmate named Su.
I would like to share my story, but those trivial details are like stray dogs run over by cars: mediocre, pitiful, and no one would be interested in lingering.
It's normal, as a jerk like me, I have never been popular since I was young, and I'm sure I am still in this situation now. Even the stupid things I do here, when I look back, I consider them shameful. The only advantage is that I can empathize with Dazai from a hundred years ago: "Throughout my life, I have only done shameful things" ("No Longer Human").
It's helpless, I can only enjoy this sense of insignificance and loneliness: I have cut off all contact with others, I have lost in the game, I started looking for niche masterpieces, and I started writing recklessly like I am now. Because I am lonely enough, I don't need to share the joy of success with others, nor do I need others' "insight" into my written works.
It's fortunate that no one can redeem me, no one can drag me out of this lonely silence, and no one can give me even a hint of confidence. Therefore, I like it this way.
I think Teacher Ning cannot detach herself from the group like I can, so she has to change herself, which is quite sad.
Take it easy, the world is big enough to accommodate all kinds of birds.